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Let’s take a little trip down memory lane. If you grew up in Pakistan during the '80s, '90s, or early 2000s, chances are you remember the time when Indian movies were the hottest thing around. They were everywhere — from bootleg VHS tapes to cable TV channels, from Sunday family nights to after-school watch parties. But here’s the honest truth many boys won’t openly admit: they weren’t exactly watching for the plot.
Nope, the action scenes and emotional storylines were background noise for something else — the heroine’s figure.
Whether it was Sridevi’s sensuous dance in “Hawa Hawai,” or Madhuri Dixit’s elegance in “Hum Aapke Hain Koun,” the female stars of Bollywood became much more than just movie characters. They became the blueprint of what was considered “beautiful.” And unfortunately, that blueprint wasn’t based on personality, talent, intelligence, or values. It was all about the body.
Beauty Over Story: The Obsession with the Actress, Not the Plot
If you ask a Pakistani boy who grew up in the Bollywood era to describe a classic movie like Mohra or Raja Hindustani, chances are you’ll hear more about Raveena Tandon in “Tip Tip Barsa Pani” or Karisma Kapoor’s dance moves than about the actual storyline.
There was a pattern here. Movies were watched not for their messages or moral takeaways, but for how the heroine looked — what she wore, how she walked, how her figure was shown. And that gaze became the default lens through which many young Pakistani boys started viewing women.
This repeated exposure did something powerful (and damaging): it embedded a standard of beauty that was purely physical.
Bollywood’s “Perfect Girl” Blueprint
Let’s talk about what Bollywood told us the “perfect woman” looked like:
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Slim waist, zero belly fat
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Long, silky hair
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Glowing, fair skin
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Flat stomach in a chiffon saree
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High cheekbones, doe eyes, flawless skin
These weren’t just random traits — they became the ideal. And here’s where it gets problematic. Boys began to internalize the idea that this is what a “dream girl” looks like. So, when it came time to think about real-life relationships or marriage, they carried that standard with them.
The problem? Real women aren’t scripted.
How This Affected Marriage Expectations
Fast forward to adulthood. Now these same boys are looking to settle down, and what’s the most common demand you’ll hear?
“Slim, smart girl chahiye.”
But why? Is it because of compatibility? Shared goals? Emotional intelligence? Nope.
It’s all rooted in that early conditioning — the type of women they saw on-screen. Without realizing it, many Pakistani boys began rejecting girls not based on who they were, but based on their weight, health, and physical structure.
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"Yeh moti hai, piles ki patient hai."
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"Isko blood pressure hai, kaun kare itna kharcha?"
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"Thyroid wali hai, dawaiyan hi nahi khatam hoti hongi."
That harsh logic starts from cinema’s fantasy and ends in real-world discrimination.
A Dangerous Mindset Built on Shallow Foundations
This obsession with the “slim and sexy” figure created a cruel mindset: if a girl isn’t slim, she’s not worthy of marriage. Worse still, if she has any health condition like thyroid issues, blood pressure, or piles — she’s seen as a “liability.” Why? Because, according to this logic, marrying her would mean hospital visits, medical bills, and too much “financial burden.”
Instead of thinking:
“Let’s support each other in health and sickness,”
the mindset becomes:
“Better to marry someone without any baggage — someone with a slim waist and no medical history.”
This isn’t just shallow thinking. It’s inhumane. And it’s rooted deeply in what media has been feeding for decades.
The Fear of Medical Expenses Becomes a Filter for Marriage
One of the most heartbreaking things is how many men in our society openly say:
“Yaar, piles ki patient ko kaun kare shadi? Aaj piles hai, kal thyroid nikal aayegi. Poora din hospital jaate rahenge. Paisa udh jaayega.”
As if a woman is a medical report, not a person.
This kind of thinking reduces an entire human being to three things:
her looks, her weight, and her potential hospital bills.
Where’s the soul? The heart? The compatibility? The companionship? The shared laughter, the emotional support, the dreams of raising a family together?
All gone — wiped out by a culture that taught boys to marry with their eyes, not with their hearts.
Conclusion of This Section: The Need to Unlearn
Pakistani boys were taught to see beauty through a very narrow, distorted lens. And unfortunately, they carried those lessons into their adult lives, often to the detriment of the women around them.
But here’s the thing: this mindset can be unlearned.
It starts with recognizing how deep the conditioning goes — and how much damage it causes. It starts with valuing women for who they are, not just how they look. And it definitely starts with seeing health conditions as part of life, not as a deal-breaker.
Because in the end, the real question should be:
Do you want to marry a figure — or a person?
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